A woman was left furious after her mother bought her a Christmas present for the third year running despite asking her not to – and is fed up being made to feel guilty for not wanting them
It’s always nice to receive gifts at Christmas, but one woman was left ‘upset’ at what her mother gifted her.
Despite asking her for the last three years not to get her anything, she was ignored and was still handed a couple of gifts from her mum. While she would have much preferred her to donate the money to charity, it’s something her mum wouldn’t accept.
But her feelings have caused a mixed reaction online, with many people telling her to just accept it and move on, even though she said she wants to declutter and thinks it’s “disrespectful” she wasn’t listened to.
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She took it Mumsnet to share her dismay and explained: “I asked my mother this year not to buy me anything for Christmas – this is the third year of asking. I said that if she really wanted to get us something, then please make a charity donation on our behalf and buy some lego/toys for a local food bank collecting.”
The woman said her mum buying gifts for her grandchildren is enough, and further added she has a “house full of stuff” that she’s trying to get rid of. “I don’t need anything and genuinely am happy if it’s just my kids having presents. It’s enough for me! I have all the stuff I could ever need and I don’t want more stuff when I’m desperately trying to declutter years of stuff.”
However, she said her mum had ignored her wishes and said she didn’t want to donate to charity and instead bought her things she didn’t need, including a pashmina she will “never wear”, a bag she will never use and other gifts, including toiletries. The post detailed: “I know this might sound ungrateful but it really upset me. I am desperately trying to declutter. She also bought me stuff that she likes but feels like it’s for the person she wants me to be and I am not. She knows this too.”
The anonymous Mumsnet user said she felt it was “disrespectful” that she’d asked for three years without presents but was left feeling ungrateful and then made to feel guilty for not wanting any of it. “Luckily she wasn’t with us for Christmas this year – I was actually quite angry and upset by it all. I hate that it makes me seem ungrateful when I keep asking her every year not to buy me stuff,” she concluded. However, not many people could get on board with her frustration.
One user chimed: “Disrespected? Upset? Angry? No need to be so dramatic, say thanks and give it to a local charity. Job done,” and another added: “You’ve mentioned it, and left the ball in her court. She’s decided that she would still like to buy something. Accept the gifts and move on.”
While another suggested: “Sound annoying. I would have suggested the charity shop but that’s just one more thing to organize to do on your day off. Can you play it differently? Tell her you’re saving for a holiday and could she give you cash instead? Or a gift voucher to John Lewis or whatever for a big purchase?”
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