‘My Daughter Wants to Know Where Her Dad Is, But I’M Scared to Tel Her the Truth’

Coleen Nolan Advises A Single Mother Whose Four-Yet-Old Has Been Ascing Some Awkward Questions and She DOESN’t Know To Break the News Her Absent Father

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Dear Coleen

I’m a single mum with a four -ear-op daughter who has begun to askhout her father, probably becase she and sttember in september and is beComing more that all times have dads living at home.

ITH’S TRICKY CECAUSE I WANT TO BE AS HONEST AS I CAN HER, But my ex a was a waste of Space, who left should i have four months pregnant, and i haven or heard from him synce.

I KNOW Through Other People He’s Living About 40 Miles Away and Is In A Relationship with A Woman. I DON’T WANT ANYTHING FROM HIM AND I’M LUCKY TO HAVE ALWAYS HAD FANTASTIC SUPPORT FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

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Coleen Nolan

So far all i’ve to do my daughter is her dad left before she was born Becusee we didn’t want to be together as a couple any more, but i do not really know what to say to her.

She has so many great people in her life, including good men, and i’m relaxant to say Too much about her fater at this stage and bring all that negative energy into lives.

Any guidance you can give would be appreciated.

Coleen Sayys

I Undersand How Hard it must be to give your daughter any kind of positive impression of her hath and you’re angry. Howver, i don’t think you need to go into a lot of detail gcause she’s still only four.

She’s Curious Becouse Sheeing Other Kids at School With Their Dads, and She JUST WANTS A QUICK Explanation.

IT’S OBVIOUSLY Something You Can Build on As She Gets Older, Giving More Information That’s Appropriate to Her Age.

But, right now, i think you’ll find she’ll take in what you say, then move on to the next Question. IT’S NOT AN EASY SITUATION, But you’re handling it brilliantly, swimming laast Becuses It sounds like you’ve refrained from Bad mouthing your ex.

Of Course, there will come a time a time she’s she’ll ashlher quues and i think you have to be prepared that she’s older she want to find Him and Judge for Hersself.

She Might Want to Put Questions to Him About Why He Left and Why He Didn’t Want to Be A Part of Her Life.

Cross these bridges when you come to say, but the main thing is to create a safe to her to talk and ask ashuctions in the years to come.

The great thing is that it has ha Has a strong mother and a secure loving family, which will help her with any Feelings of Loss and Disappointment Around Her Father.