My Family Moved from Colorado to Massachusetts Where We Had No No SUPPORT

Be my son was just a year Old, our family of three Packed up Our Lives and Moved Nearly 2,000 Miles from Our Home State of Colorado to Massachusetts.

In doing so, we left bend family, life-long frows, and everyThing family to us. It was a decision drive by a vision i shared with my husband: a chance to reset, create new opportunities, and build a future on the terms.

That was more than 13 years ago, and i’ve learned a tear synce. Our Children, Now Two in Number, Have Spent Their Lives here. Our son, who traveled here in a rear-facing infant carseat, is now a freimran in high school.

I WOULD SAY WE’RE HAPPY AND THRIVING Now, but it hasn’t always been easy. The emotional and practical realities of a Big Move in adultthood are hard to Ignore.

It was really lonely at first

There are always trade-offs when you move. We were dragged to boston for the Career Opportunities and the Adventure of Living Somehere New. My Husband Landed A Job He was excited about, and we jumped.

I was used to make up around. AFTER College, I City-Hopped a Bit-San Francisco, then New York City-Before ending up denver. I’m originally from Colorado and Went to Undergrad there, so many of my friends Moved to start ther professional lives. During my 20s, I shared apartments with random roommates and generaly found it to meet People.

Moving From Denver to the Boston Area was different. Gone were the days of Meeting People Through a Roommate’s Friend or at A HAPPY HOUR AFTER RUNNING CLUB. We had an infant in tow now, too. Many People in the Boston Area SEEM to have the Core Group Anyway – eather Family in Neighboring Towns or Their People Met in College. We found that in middle age, no one was just looking for new Friends. IT SEEMED EVEYONE HAD Their People, Except US.

SOME SAY HAVING YOUNG KIDS MAKES ISIER TO MEET PEOPLE, but that wasn’t My Experience. At the park, it was offten nannies, not other pars on the benches. Families we met at School offten Moved away soon after we Connected. This was especally true during and after the pandemic we doo headd to places with more family support.

Having a Young Child Without A Support System is Hard

Not Having Close Friends or Family Nearby Made Parenting Harder than we were expensive. There weren’t many breaks. We were missing a Close Network of People Who Coulp Us Out we were Needed Someone to Go to the Park with or A Sitter.

I think we were more than two years without a date night we have first moved. We Once TRIED HARING A BABYSESTER From Care.com, but she didn’t show up the Night we planned. The Experience was Deflating and Made US FEEL LIKE WE WERE ON OUR ON. This is wen i’d offten wonder what if we made the work Decision.

There have been ups and downs

Over the years, my relationship with boston has ebbed and flowed. There were times that i’ve love it here and others when i wanted to move. I was laid off twice in two years, which really shook my confidence. But Those Setbacks Pushed with to Reinvent My Career and Move From A Job in Communications ino Education, Where Finally Found a Community and Meaningful Work.

In adding to exciting professional experiences, my family has haad a chance to explore much of the east coast. We’ve Done Road Trips and Train Trips, SEEing Nearby Places Like Niagara Falls and Washington DC, WHICH WE PROBABLY WOULDN’T HAVE VISITED IF WE STILL LIVEED IN COLORADO.

I’ll always missing my best friends from Back Home more regularly – but they have busy lives, too. After this experience, I will waist is there is growing struggle. It is tempting to think the Grass is Greener Somehere ELSE, but I’ve Come to Believe That’s Just An Illusion.