A woman has opened up about her in-laws’ refusal to pronounce her name correctly, but people have defended her decision to continue to correct them after she got revenge at dinner time
A woman has shared her story of how she exacted petty revenge on her in-laws for consistently mispronouncing her name. She confessed that while her name isn’t “super common”, it’s not particularly difficult to pronounce either, so she was left baffled at their insistence not to pronounce it right.
However, her husband’s parents seem unable to get it right. “Think something like ‘Leena,’ but my in-laws keep saying ‘Lana’,” she revealed, adding that despite being with her husband for “five years, married for two,” they still “can’t get it right.”
Initially, she assumed they may need some time to adjust and to learn the proper pronunciation. After all, they’re in their 60s and learning a new name might take some time.
But despite frequent interactions and numerous corrections, they continued to get it wrong, she vented on Reddit.
The woman disclosed that her husband had advised her to “let it go” as it was “not intentional,” – “But at what point does it stop being accidental and start being just…dismissive?” she questioned.
She added: “It’s not like they generally struggle with pronunciation. They can say names like ‘Giovanni’ or ‘Schwarzenegger’ just fine. My husband’s mum even talks about how much she loves learning about different cultures, but when it comes to my name, she always shrugs it off with, ‘Well, you know who I mean’!”.
The final straw came during a family dinner when her mother-in-law introduced her to a friend and once again butchered her name.
She was absolutely livid as she recalled the moment that tipped her over the edge at a recent family dinner. “The last straw was at a family dinner last weekend. His mum was introducing me to her friend and said, ‘This is our daughter-in-law, Lana’. I laughed a little and said, ‘Almost! It’s Leena.’ She sighed and said, ‘Oh, you’re so particular,’ in front of everyone.”
Explaining the awkward aftermath, she shared: “It was embarrassing. I just smiled and let it go, but later, I told my husband I didn’t think it was fair. He got defensive and said I was making his mum feel bad over something ‘so small’.”
The dilemma has left her questioning her own reasonableness: “I honestly don’t think I’m being unreasonable. I’m not asking them to learn a new language, just my actual name. But now I feel like I’m being that person – overly sensitive and nitpicking. My best friend says I should just answer to it because ‘older people don’t change,’ but I don’t want to set the precedent that my name doesn’t matter.”
She’s since turned to the internet for advice on whether persisting with corrections would be too much, especially after correcting her husband’s mum in front of a friend.
Users have weighed in on her predicament, with one querying: “What are you being particular about? That people know your actual name after five years? They’re almost certainly doing it on purpose, right?”.
Others were unequivocal in their support: “Your husband sucks. How can he say you made his mum feel small by this one incident when he doesn’t give as**t that they can’t get your name right after five years? Like, of course, that will make you feel small! Have you discussed this with him over the years? How is he okay with this treatment of his wife? What is he doing about it?”
Some commenters were ready to escalate their rants, one writing: “I’d also request that my parents start calling my husband by the wrong name. Really up the petty game until the point is CRYSTAL CLEAR.”
Another was visibly irate, venting: “If you’re planning to have children, tell your mother-in-law very pointedly that she better learn how to pronounce your name if she wants to spend time with her grandchildren.”
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