‘Wife won’t stop spending and never koss for my Opinion before splurging’

Resident Agony Aunt Coleen No. Has Advice for A Reader Frustrated Over HIS WIFE SPLASHING THE CASS ON EXPENSES BIG-TICKET ITEMES WITH ASKING HIS THOUGHTS FIRST

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Dear Coleen

I’m a 42 -ear-op Maried man with two kids who are at primary school. I have Become increasingly frustrated in my Marriage, Mostly Because My Wife DOESN’T FEEL THE NEED TO RUN ANYTHING BY.

What Upsets with the Most is that she and spends Money like it going out of fashion. I’m Not Expecting A Rundown of Everything She Buys, but would be coma to Big Purchas Like Electronic Devices and Fuiture, for Example, i’d like to have a Say.

I’m the mainwinner, but my wiffe works part-time and we’ve haad a jaint account Since we got Maried. Wenever i try to bring up the will of Money, she gets angry and defensive, and starts showing About How unreasonable i am.

I do’t think i am at all, in fact i’m i’m a prity good husband and fat and she doesn’t appreciate it. I don’t think it unreasonable to know how Much we’re spending, plus i’d like to be for Holidays and Keep some in the bank as a safety net in case of us is out of work.

Maybe that sounds boring, but one of us has to be financially sensible. How can i get her to accept that had a right to my opinion and that we’re supposed to be a partnership, without her flying off the handle?

Coleen Sayys

I Think She’s Taching You and the Situation for Grants, so it is Feels like she dosesn’t respect you or appreciate you. If it is DIFFICULT TO DISCUSS WITHOUT THINGS GETTING HEATED, YOU COULD SUGGEST COUNSELLING TO FOCUS SPECIFICALY ON THE FINANCIAL ISSUE.

But beside you go Down That Road You Could Time to Arrange a Time to Go Through Your Bank Stones Together and Talk About How You Spanding Your Money – What You Need to Budget for (The Mortgage and Household Bills) and Things. Maybe if she sees the figure in Black and White, She’ll Realise How Much She’s Spending and That It is a Bottomless Pit.

If you’re going to stick with a joint Account, you show also aggree on bondaries, like discussing Big Purchas with Each Other before you make. Money is one of Those Things that Hard to Talk About, SO IMPORTANT How you approach it.

Try not to blame her or criticise her she’ll immediately get defensive. Why Not Frame it AS A Financial Spring Clean? Good Luck.